kokkinisto-kounoopi:

I’ve seen a few posts going around with advice on how to persuade a guy to use a condom if he doesn’t want to, or saying things like “if the choice is a condom or no sex, he’ll pick the sex”. Well, I’m here to tell you all that if a guy is that indifferent towards your physical safety and comfort, you should absolutely not have sex with him at all. I’m tired of always being asked to cajole and wheedle men into treating women decently. I don’t want advice that tells me that if I don’t want to have sex with a guy, I should try to bargain him down to a less invasive sex act. I don’t want advice that tells me I need to find ways to deal with men who don’t care. I want advice that tells me how to say no to these kinds of guys, because no matter how much you beg and negotiate, they’ll still be trash. I should have my boundaries respected.