frnkiequinn:

edgy-egalitarian:

pocketflugs:

k9bf:

trans guy: i feel dysphoric
cis ally: ur literally the handsomest manly dude guy bro dude man i ever seen before in my life my guy dude! just because you’re biologically a woman doesnt mean you aren’t super manly and handsome!! honestly wow your jawline is so sharp cut me with your jaw daddy father sir

for cis people asking what they should say, here’s a few suggestions:

– don’t overdo it (the reason why this example is Bad is because the cis person overuses all these masculine words and it’s too extreme).

– don’t say anything about how he is ‘biologically a woman’. never mention that to a trans person. ever.

– don’t shower him with compliments. yes, one or two might be good, but he isn’t asking you to confirm that he looks male (most of the time).

– do show sympathy. tell him you’re sorry that he feels that way and try to comfort him if you can (and if you try to comfort him, refer to the points above this one so you don’t do anything wrong).

– do ask if you can help. if he says that you can’t, leave him alone till he’s feeling better (or maybe try to cheer him up by changing the subject).

– do tell him you’re there for him, if all else fails. if anything, you can make him feel better by reminding him that he has a friend.

I really like this post because it’s honestly really helpful and doesn’t shit on cis people for being ignorant in this situation.

One thing I’d ad; instead of asking if you can help ask “is there anything you need or want?” this can be good advice in general because it allows the person to say something like needing to be alone and doesn’t put as much pressure on them to come up with something to try and make you feel useful