lord-kitschener:

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scornpios:

yellowjuice:

bruddabois:

sankaras:

alyesque:

Khaled’s misogyny aside for a second but who doesn’t like eating pussy jfc

My husband said Russian men think it’s gay

Yknow what

eating pussy…is gay….

Fellas is it gay to have sex with a woman?

In the normies’ dialect, “gay” doesn’t quite mean “homosexual” – it’s more along the lines of “homosexual and/or effeminate”. Thus, for example, boy bands like One Direction are often seen as “gay” regardless of the members’ sexual orientation and despite them having a huge number of female fans: one of their major selling factors is attractiveness, and selling things with one’s appearance is a “woman’s job”, which makes a man doing it seen as effeminate or “gay”. Likewise, the only “masculine” way to have sex is to be penetrating a woman with one’s penis. Even penetrative fingering (not to mention non-pentrative clitoral stimulation) is looked down upon because it doesn’t involve a penis, but it would probably pass as an acceptable form of “foreplay” (well, other than the part where a lot of these men are also massively disgusted by vulvae, and only want to touch them with their penises) – the only “real” kind of sex is vaginal or anal penetration. Cunnilingus violates this standard of masculinity in several ways: it doesn’t involve a penis; it involves putting one’s mouth on another person’s genitals, which, fellatio being the central example of oral sex for these people, is also seen as a “woman’s job”; it involves applying effort and possibly tolerating mild physical discomfort for the sake of the partner’s pleasure, which is also a “woman’s job”. Thus, giving cunnilingus is seen as effeminate, and thus “gay”.

Y’all need to keep in mind that garden variety conservative dudebros don’t run on the same ontology as tumblr does. You may see gender identity, gender presentation, gender roles, and sexual orientation as entirely separate things, but for them these are all intertwined. Homophobia, transphobia, and sexism aren’t separate axes of prejudice that often happen to coincide (I mean, they can be; I’m talking about the specific world view that also produces things like “cunnilingus is gay”); they’re stemming from a very specific understanding what men and women are and what they should do. Redrawing categories such that gender and sexuality are separate things is a rather novel approach; even queer communities started really treating them as separate only in late 20th century, and the mainstream is far from being there – especially in less progressive countries. Quick reminder: Stonewall riots technically started over gender presentation rather than sexual orientation – it’s hard to apply sodomy laws when you don’t actually catch people having sex, but very easy to apply the laws that say that men must dress like men and women must dress like women, which what the police was checking: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stonewall_riots#Police_raid. But at the time, the boundaries between gay identity, drag queen identity, and transgender identity were very blurred.

Which is also why the compartmentalization of activism is really really bad, as is “don’t you dare to say that you’re experiencing X-phobia if you’re not X”. We can’t fight a unified force by pretending that entirely different forces are striking entirely different people. “Giving cunnilingus is gay, and therefore I won’t do it and will bully everyone who does” has the undertones of homophobia (”gays are bad, bully them”), misogyny (”giving oral sex is dishonorable, and therefore only women can do that because they’re second class citizens who have no honor to begin with”), transphobia and gender policing (”the shape of genitals you’re born with determines what you can and cannot do in life; incidentally, having been born with a penis means that you can’t give oral sex”). But even considering all these categories separately doesn’t really get us to the core of the issue that “gay” and “effeminate” are inseparable categories for these people.

Also this misogynist idea isn’t endemic to Russia, I’ve seen similar shitty attitudes in plenty of guys from the USA, and the notes on this post are full if people pointing out that this attitude is common in other countries, toi