i don’t think people understand why bi people created a specific pride flag for ourselves. it’s not because we’re ~more privileged and because we’re sucking resources from the hard-working members of the lgbt community who deserve them more~ or something. it’s because the only people who can increase bi visibility are bisexuals, lol. like people who aren’t bi always complain that we make everything about ourselves and that if we ask for help or solidarity we’re taking away attention from people who are Truly Oppressed ™. this attitude didn’t spring up out of nowhere – bisexuals have been dealing it with for some time now. the creator of the bi pride flag and other bi activists who came up with bi pride celebration events knew that the only people they could rely on to increase bi visibility was themselves and their community. it’s not because we wanted to decrease the visibility of lesbians or “steal” the rainbow flag from gay men and then have another pride flag all to ourselves or something, lol.
we’re accused of being whiny and attention-seeking when we reach out and ask for help and yet we’re somehow also whiny and selfish and attention-seeking when we do things by ourselves to help out our own community without asking anyone else for help. as usual the hate people have toward bisexuals reeks of cognitive dissonance.
and again i don’t think people understand why increasing bi visibility is necessary – it’s not simply about media representation or getting a pride flag or a spot in a parade. it’s about access to vital community resources that the most vulnerable bi people need. it’s because bi visibility has increased that bi women who are abused, that bi people who are addicts, that bi people who are mentally ill and suicidal, that bi people who are HIV+, can at least begin to get the help/support they need. and we still fall short on accessing it because bisexuals are still overwhelmingly closeted (in spite of their apparent numeric abundance). so yes it’s about bi pride and self-love but more importantly it’s about combatting invisibility that is literally killing bisexuals. a specific pride flag is an emblem of a community and it indicates that there is a body of individuals who are just like you and who will help you and that you aren’t alone.
for the last……..i don’t know, 5 or so years, my m.o. regarding internet bisexual disourse has largely been to ignore it and encourage other bi people to do the same. it made sense to me because as far as i could see it was an issue that exclusively existed on this site. which isn’t to say i didn’t think it was harmful – i hated myself for years as a direct result of the things other lgbt people said about bisexual women on here – but i thought the harm could largely be avoided by blocking the few loudmouths who were trying to start shit and hanging with people who weren’t evil.
i no longer feel that way.
i no longer feel that way because, as of yesterday, you absolute fucking buffoons have ran your mouth so far that your fire new radical materialist feminist discourse so hot even fellow lgbts cant handle????????? has reached lena fucking dunham
do you want to know WHY your radical materialist feminist discourse reached lena dunham?????
because a bisexual journalist made this simple ass tweet
and in response, some straight white woman decided to tweet this
which would have just stayed straight nonsense if an extremely smart and clever white lesbian writer friend of hers hadn’t decided to join in with a searing hot take based on a radical perspective towards gender that could only have been achieved with her clearly useful phd in queer literature
which would have just stayed mildly irritating if she and the rest of her friends hadn’t proceeded to defend themselves by arguing that bi women deserve rape and abuse actually
which would have only been horrifyingly offensive if all of these people weren’t 1.) people who make money writing about lgbt shit that 2.) were tweeting from their work accounts where 3.) they have enough reach to be followed by actually influential people such as comrade lena dunham
so seeing as the “close your eyes and maybe itll go away” method has CLEARLY failed, i am genuinely pleased to announce my new tactic. its called
Can I also just draw out here that their argument is LITERALLY that “women who sleep with men deserve what happens to them.”
Like.
This kind of person is, straight (haha) up, the kind of person who is only here for “I want mine”. If they’d been born a straight guy they’d be the worst kind of bros.
This is a thing that happens: I know PLENTY of straight white women whose grasp of feminism is limited strictly to “this affects me, so it’s important”. And of every other stripe of identity.
But never mistake it for anything than what it is.
ok i’m just gonna say this : all you white wlw are always nitpicking black women who come out as bisexual or lesbians, somehow they’re never good enough and they’re never gay enough and they “use” their sexuality as a cash cow (which doesn’t make any sense lmfao).
BUT every time there’s a white woman who never even said she was gay or bi but who “seems gay” to y’all, suddenly she’s a gay icon and everyone should watch her movies/listen to her songs. y’all be out here supporting Keira Knightley and Cate Blanchett because you’re convinced they’re wlw, but you can’t give half of that support to Janelle Monàe because you have a bad feeling about her?? LOL. guess what that bad feeling is? here’s a clue : it’s antiblackness.
oh and let’s not even talk about how Hayley Kiyoko is revered as a goddess on this website because she’s a lesbian singing about loving girls and she’s pursuing girls in her music videos, but when Janelle is singing about her bisexuality and giving us a whole movie about it, suddenly she’s just using her sexuality to gain more fans/viewers…
send me an unpopular opinion. i can only post it. not say anything
I’m curious what anon would consider to be a tangible difference between a lesbian and a bi woman that could, hypothetically, make someone want to only date one or the other without being either lesbophobic or biphobic.
I’m never sure whether people who want to ship characters with a same sex character feeling the need to illegitimize existing opposite sex canon relationships they have had is more annoying or the pearl clutching you can’t ship this person with same sex characters because their canon relationships haven’t been response is more annoying.
They both are very annoying and I’ve dealt with both. I’ve also dealt with people, in the latter case, accusing everyone who shipped the same-gender pairing of being fetishizers and only in the fandom for shipping instead of genuine fans.
GNC bi women who are dating or prefer feminine women are not predatory, manipulative or in any way like men
I mean… it depends on the individual person, just like with men.
The vast majority of them are not, just like with men. But you should still watch out for those who are.
me: gnc bi girls shouldn’t feel guilty about being attracted to girls based on homophobic stereotypes about us that nonsensically compare us to an oppressor class
you: but actually you should be constantly on the lookout for manly predatory bi girls, just in case one actually is a predator! i am very intelligent
Ah thanks. Im pretty sure my intelligence level is perfectly average, tho.
Whether a bi girl is manly or not has absolutely nothing to do with whether or not she is predatory. Predators can be of any gender, race, sexuality, gender exoression, etc. If recognizing this makes you angry, then maybe you should ask yourself why you want to pretend bi girls cannot be predatory.
Gay men can be predatory. Lesbians can be predatory. Trans women can be predatory. Trans men can be predatory. Non binary people can be predatory. Cis people can be predatory. Heterosexuals can be predatory. Black people can be predatory. White people can be predatory. Latinos can be predatory. Literally any person can be predatory.
If you wanna go ahead and stick your fingers in your ears and go “la la la I can’t hear you bi girls can nevervbe predatory la la la” well then, go ahead. But don’t pretend we all have to do the same along with you.
Not sure what post you’re responding to because the op literally does not say that gnc bi women cannot be predatory. It says that we are not inherently predatory for dating women more feminine than us. It is a direct response to people who try to push the idea that we are all predatory by virtue of being gnc alone.
Sounds like you might have some personal issues you need to work on if you projected all that onto a post that wasn’t intended for you, and which you clearly missed the context and point of so disastrously 🤔🤔🤔
The “
in any way like men” in @tomcats-and-tophats post refers to the ability to perpetuate institutional sexism.
There’s a difference between that and individual predatory behavior. Women, as individuals can be predatory but women as a marginalized class can’t perpetuate institutional sexism.
literally bisexual women aren’t allowed to have an opinion on men, regardless of if it’s positive or negative. a bi girl can say she hates men and people will be like “yeah but you’re bi, don’t you spend all your time sucking the toes of every man you see?” or some dumb ignorant shit like that. but if you say something positive about men people will say you’re not trying hard enough to be lgbt and that you’re acting too straight. like no matter what we do we can’t win lmao
So Shades saw Mariah murder Cornell, which probably means that he overheard their conversation.
So he knows why Mariah killed Cornell, but he never brought it up to her or told her that he knew. He just reassures that she was in the right in killing him.
Shades grew up in the streets of Harlem, went to prison, and even he KNOWS that it is NEVER the victim’s fault.
And he lets her know that, in his own subtle way.
Also, in their last scene together when she kisses him, he gives her that control and doesn’t make any moves other than that big smile.
This means everything to me.
Given what we now know about him I wonder if he can sympathize because he’s had people use his sexuality to victim blame him for similar situations.
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