Ok so yesterday my friend told me I had a “straight aura” to me. I came out to her as bi a few months ago and she really supported me in that and I really appreciated it. But now she’s convinced I’m actually straight.
A few weeks ago I went to a Pride Club Meeting for the first time. I’d just gotten the guts to do it. I introduced myself a bisexual. Later in the meeting I was called “another questioning lesbian”.
Stop discrediting bisexuals. Stop telling us we’re straights looking for attention or gays to unsure to come out “completely”. Stop telling me I’m wrong about my own sexuality, when it has taken me years to become comfortable with it and accept it.
If you see any memes saying “There are more than two genders #DropTheB” floating around, it’s a false flag operation from /pol/, and it’s meant to start outrage and infighting within the LGBTQ+ community.
in light of this #droptheB hash tag that reactionary psyops have begun, i just want to remind everyone that bi/trans solidarity has always existed. we have always fought for each other’s visibility and safety and rights and we have always formed community with each other. bi history and trans history aren’t mutually exclusive threads – they’re intertwined. you go back through various lgbt archives, such as the archive of the san francisco bay area bisexual network’s magazine, and you’ll see calls for bi/trans solidarity from the 80′s and 90′s. monica helms, the trans woman who created the trans pride flag, was inspired to do so after talking to michael page, the bi man who created the bisexual pride flag. we’ve always been there for each other and that won’t change just because reactionaries hate us and want to divide and conquer.
and a special shout out to: trans and nb bisexuals, who are part of both communities. i’m sorry that this is happening, but i’m especially sorry that reactionaries are trying to rip you apart between your communities.
my mom’s work held a seminar about lgbt issues and there was a part where they talked about the high rates of suicide, drug use, and abuse that bi people face and my mom told me that everyone there was so shocked that the rates were higher than gay men and lesbians. including the gay man who was sitting next to my mom who said he had no idea and now he felt guilty for how he talked to and thought about bi people in the past. everyone there (including my mother, by her own admission) thought that things would be easier for bisexuals because we can “fit in with either group.” that really shows you how much people ignore the specific issues that bisexuals have to go through and how the fact that people think we have “straight-passing privilege” just makes people turn their backs on us.
According to the Bisexual Resource Center (BRC), approximately 40 percent of bisexual people have considered or attempted suicide, compared to just over a quarter of gay men and lesbians.
HRC’s “Health Disparities Among Bisexual People” found that “when compared to heterosexual adults, bisexual adults reported double the rate of depression and higher rates of binge drinking.”
Those numbers are even higher for the bisexual people who are also transgender, people of color and/or people with disabilities.
It’s literally not even fucking Mulan anymore. It’s just another random movie by now. Kids grew up with Mulan and are now older and want to see the potential that this movie could have to help society see that diversity is a good thing. It’s good for people to be themselves. And Mulan shows kids that sometimes you have to do hard things in order to achieve what you want/need. Why would they ever change something so drastic like that?
something that bisexuals are afraid to discuss or admit to about bi history is the presence of polyamory within bi spaces and the connection b/w polyamory and bisexuality. people want to avoid conforming to bi stereotypes bc they fear homophobic backlash and that’s very fair. plus polyamory is not inherently “queer”. but the discourse has made it very difficult for bi people to acknowledge that many historical bisexual icons and bi elders practiced polyamory and were in polyamorous configurations throughout their lives. listen, if u are part of a community in which ur sexual identity is conceptualized as being “too much” and being temporary bc of that “greed”, it’s obvious that said community will politically reclaim and embrace a marker of the very thing that’s used against them. let’s not be afraid to talk about that. don’t buy into respectability politics to distill and purify our history.
Hey I get that compulsive heterosexuality is a thing and all but can we maybe stop trying to convince bi girls that they aren’t actually attracted to guys….I mean can we get rid of the idea that a bi girl who lusts after men is somehow doing a great disservice to the wlw community or being disloyal to who she “really” is…compulsive heterosexuality is real but guess what bisexuality is too and it’s a very valid identity
You may be 98% sure she’s not really bi and you can still keep your damn mouth shut
Hell, you can be absolutely right, and in a year she’s gonna laugh and say ‘haha I thought I liked men, can you believe it?’ And you can still keep your damn mouth shut
Let every girl explore and discover her identity at her own pace in her own way.
Let every girl choose the labels that make her the happiest and most comfortable
I id’ed as pan ace for half a year before I started seeing myself as a lesbian. And honestly, had someone tried to chew me out for that or called it a phase I would’ve been crushed.
I can only imagine how much worse it feels for actual bi and pan girls
Let bi girls be bi girls and let girls-who-you’re-pretty-sure-are-not-actually-bi be bi girls because that’s their label to pick.
Based on a 90-second teaser trailer and a few assumptions, the calls have gone out that we should boycott Bohemian Rhapsody for queer erasure.
“The trailer doesn’t show any gay content, only het stuff!” There’s a split-second shot of Freddie hugging his girlfriend at one point. There’s also multiple shots of him obviously flirting with guys. The contention that the trailer is queer erasure is mostly coming from cis gay (white) men mad that the movie seems to be depicting Freddie Mercury as bisexual and capable of loving women at all, but given how significant his relationship with Mary Austin was to his life, it would be a disservice to everyone to exclude it.
Also, the cast list includes several male characters listed as “Freddie’s Lover,” as well as Jim Hutton, his partner in his final years.
“They’ve said the movie is going to ignore the AIDS crisis!” No. What’s been said is that the movie ends in 1985. Once this information was released, people immediately jumped to assume that because the movie wasn’t going to chronicle Freddie’s illness and death in detail, it was avoiding the subject entirely. But the AIDS crisis was in full swing in ‘85, and Freddie of all people was extremely aware of it. The description of the trailer (the first teaser trailer!) even alludes to it.
It’s a fair point that they haven’t mentioned AIDS by name yet, but also, the only materials they’ve released so far are some promo images and one teaser trailer.
In this context, for people wondering why the creative team or the remaining band members don’t come out to “put the matter to rest” by assuring us the film deals with AIDS, it might help to remember that the media has in the past been extremely tawdry and exploitative in its treatment of Freddie Mercury’s illness and death (have you not seen all the “HIS TRAGIC AIDS STORY!!!” videos floating around Youtube? Not read the biographies that linger in lurid, dubiously sympathetic detail?). It makes sense to me that if Brian May and Roger Taylor have a heavy hand in the making of the film (which they seem to), they’d ask for a more subtle approach.
Also, again: we have six months till the movie comes out and only one teaser trailer at this point. Be concerned if you feel the need, but it’s a little early to call for a boycott.
Do not tell people to shun queer content because you have decided, six months in advance with very little information, that it won’t be up to your standards when it comes out.
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