Tag: bisexuals

hoespice:

birianagrande:

my mom’s work held a seminar about lgbt issues and there was a part where they talked about the high rates of suicide, drug use, and abuse that bi people face and my mom told me that everyone there was so shocked that the rates were higher than gay men and lesbians. including the gay man who was sitting next to my mom who said he had no idea and now he felt guilty for how he talked to and thought about bi people in the past. everyone there (including my mother, by her own admission) thought that things would be easier for bisexuals because we can “fit in with either group.” that really shows you how much people ignore the specific issues that bisexuals have to go through and how the fact that people think we have “straight-passing privilege” just makes people turn their backs on us.

According to the Bisexual Resource Center (BRC), approximately 40 percent of bisexual people have considered or attempted suicide, compared to just over a quarter of gay men and lesbians.

HRC’s “Health Disparities Among Bisexual People” found that “when compared to heterosexual adults, bisexual adults reported double the rate of depression and higher rates of binge drinking.”

Those numbers are even higher for the bisexual people who are also transgender, people of color and/or people with disabilities.

cuntybisexual:

something that bisexuals are afraid to discuss or admit to about bi history is the presence of polyamory within bi spaces and the connection b/w polyamory and bisexuality. people want to avoid conforming to bi stereotypes bc they fear homophobic backlash and that’s very fair. plus polyamory is not inherently “queer”. but the discourse has made it very difficult for bi people to acknowledge that many historical bisexual icons and bi elders practiced polyamory and were in polyamorous configurations throughout their lives. listen, if u are part of a community in which ur sexual identity is conceptualized as being “too much” and being temporary bc of that “greed”, it’s obvious that said community will politically reclaim and embrace a marker of the very thing that’s used against them. let’s not be afraid to talk about that. don’t buy into respectability politics to distill and purify our history. 

brownbitchbisexual:

this pride i’d be so happy if people who aren’t bisexual stopped commenting on bisexuality, bisexual experiences, bisexual subjectivities, and bisexual history, especially if they haven’t met actual bi people off this site and/or read anything written or created by an actual bi person lol 

actualplanetpluto:

its-getting-wayhaught-in-here:

Hey I get that compulsive heterosexuality is a thing and all but can we maybe stop trying to convince bi girls that they aren’t actually attracted to guys….I mean can we get rid of the idea that a bi girl who lusts after men is somehow doing a great disservice to the wlw community or being disloyal to who she “really” is…compulsive heterosexuality is real but guess what bisexuality is too and it’s a very valid identity

You may be 98% sure she’s not really bi and you can still keep your damn mouth shut

Hell, you can be absolutely right, and in a year she’s gonna laugh and say ‘haha I thought I liked men, can you believe it?’ And you can still keep your damn mouth shut

Let every girl explore and discover her identity at her own pace in her own way.

Let every girl choose the labels that make her the happiest and most comfortable

I id’ed as pan ace for half a year before I started seeing myself as a lesbian. And honestly, had someone tried to chew me out for that or called it a phase I would’ve been crushed.

I can only imagine how much worse it feels for actual bi and pan girls

Let bi girls be bi girls and let girls-who-you’re-pretty-sure-are-not-actually-bi be bi girls because that’s their label to pick.

Not yours

giggleboxx3000:

s/o to the guy who cheered for me when he saw my big ass bi pride pin!!!! He wasn’t creepy about it at all (didn’t ask those fetish-y questions about threesomes™ and all that shit). He asked me if bisexuality was liking guys and girls, so I corrected him by including nonbinaries as well, which he thought was cool as fuck (nb’s ARE cool as fuck, so he’s not wrong about that 😎). He didn’t judge me at all either yeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!

That really made my day 😁

brownbitchbisexual:

it’s not a coincidence that reece king, keiynan lonsdale, alia shawkat, and sara ramirez all became more overtly gender non-conforming after coming out as bisexual. this is a bisexual tradition. bisexuality enables us as bisexual individuals to express ourselves wrt gender even more because it frees us from the shackles of heteronormativity. if we’re lucky enough to be openly bisexual, it means that our gender performance is very likely to change as well. this is not some random pattern that i’m making up because i’m an idiot who knows nothing about ~real~ lgbt history. it’s a reality for bi people, especially bi people of color, but it’s not a reality you’ll be willing to admit to if you fundamentally don’t see bisexuals are complex and multidimensional people.