ghgirluniverse:

emospritelet:

sarashouldbestudying:

I just saw a thing on a tv show that really bewildered me.
The question was: “Would would you do if you discovered one of your friend’s husband was cheating on her?”
1) You tell her everything
2) You mind your own business and pretend to know nothing
3) You throw hints at your friend
4) You try to convince your friend’s husband to confess.

Many people said the best thing was to “mind your own business” or just “throw hints” not to make your friend suffer and avoid ruining the friendship.
Really? I would be mad if I discovered one of my friends didn’t warn me I was dating/married to an asshole. Seriously, how can people think letting your friend be cheated on is anyway better than letting her know the truth?

Hell yes! When I broke up with my ex-boyfriend all my ‘friends’ were like ‘Thank God! You know he was cheating on you, right?’
I was devastated. Not by him, I knew he was an arsehole. By them.

My automatic instinct would be to tell my best friend everything, if her s/o was cheating on her, even though they were in still in an active romantic relationship. I would be pissed off if my friends didn’t tell me too, and we wouldn’t be friends anymore.

A half-year ago I would’ve agreed with everyone above.

But…

My friends didn’t tell me that my ex was lying to me about his drug use/spending habits until after I broke up with him. I was upset because telling would be my first instinct as well but then it occurred to me that I was really stressed out about my thesis at the time and I saw him as like the one source of stability in my life. I would’ve probably broken down completely if they had told me when I was still working on it. He broke up with me right after I finished so he was probably thinking the same thing. I’d like to think that if he hadn’t broken up with me then they would’ve been honest.

Just based on my experience I’d say tell your friends but be mindful of the timing of your announcement.