Khaled’s misogyny aside for a second but who doesn’t like eating pussy jfc
My husband said Russian men think it’s gay
Yknow what
eating pussy…is gay….
Fellas is it gay to have sex with a woman?
In the normies’ dialect, “gay” doesn’t quite mean “homosexual” – it’s more along the lines of “homosexual and/or effeminate”. Thus, for example, boy bands like One Direction are often seen as “gay” regardless of the members’ sexual orientation and despite them having a huge number of female fans: one of their major selling factors is attractiveness, and selling things with one’s appearance is a “woman’s job”, which makes a man doing it seen as effeminate or “gay”. Likewise, the only “masculine” way to have sex is to be penetrating a woman with one’s penis. Even penetrative fingering (not to mention non-pentrative clitoral stimulation) is looked down upon because it doesn’t involve a penis, but it would probably pass as an acceptable form of “foreplay” (well, other than the part where a lot of these men are also massively disgusted by vulvae, and only want to touch them with their penises) – the only “real” kind of sex is vaginal or anal penetration. Cunnilingus violates this standard of masculinity in several ways: it doesn’t involve a penis; it involves putting one’s mouth on another person’s genitals, which, fellatio being the central example of oral sex for these people, is also seen as a “woman’s job”; it involves applying effort and possibly tolerating mild physical discomfort for the sake of the partner’s pleasure, which is also a “woman’s job”. Thus, giving cunnilingus is seen as effeminate, and thus “gay”.
Y’all need to keep in mind that garden variety conservative dudebros don’t run on the same ontology as tumblr does. You may see gender identity, gender presentation, gender roles, and sexual orientation as entirely separate things, but for them these are all intertwined. Homophobia, transphobia, and sexism aren’t separate axes of prejudice that often happen to coincide (I mean, they can be; I’m talking about the specific world view that also produces things like “cunnilingus is gay”); they’re stemming from a very specific understanding what men and women are and what they should do. Redrawing categories such that gender and sexuality are separate things is a rather novel approach; even queer communities started really treating them as separate only in late 20th century, and the mainstream is far from being there – especially in less progressive countries. Quick reminder: Stonewall riots technically started over gender presentation rather than sexual orientation – it’s hard to apply sodomy laws when you don’t actually catch people having sex, but very easy to apply the laws that say that men must dress like men and women must dress like women, which what the police was checking: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stonewall_riots#Police_raid. But at the time, the boundaries between gay identity, drag queen identity, and transgender identity were very blurred.
Which is also why the compartmentalization of activism is really really bad, as is “don’t you dare to say that you’re experiencing X-phobia if you’re not X”. We can’t fight a unified force by pretending that entirely different forces are striking entirely different people. “Giving cunnilingus is gay, and therefore I won’t do it and will bully everyone who does” has the undertones of homophobia (”gays are bad, bully them”), misogyny (”giving oral sex is dishonorable, and therefore only women can do that because they’re second class citizens who have no honor to begin with”), transphobia and gender policing (”the shape of genitals you’re born with determines what you can and cannot do in life; incidentally, having been born with a penis means that you can’t give oral sex”). But even considering all these categories separately doesn’t really get us to the core of the issue that “gay” and “effeminate” are inseparable categories for these people.
Also this misogynist idea isn’t endemic to Russia, I’ve seen similar shitty attitudes in plenty of guys from the USA, and the notes on this post are full if people pointing out that this attitude is common in other countries, toi
It’s literally not even fucking Mulan anymore. It’s just another random movie by now. Kids grew up with Mulan and are now older and want to see the potential that this movie could have to help society see that diversity is a good thing. It’s good for people to be themselves. And Mulan shows kids that sometimes you have to do hard things in order to achieve what you want/need. Why would they ever change something so drastic like that?
something that bisexuals are afraid to discuss or admit to about bi history is the presence of polyamory within bi spaces and the connection b/w polyamory and bisexuality. people want to avoid conforming to bi stereotypes bc they fear homophobic backlash and that’s very fair. plus polyamory is not inherently “queer”. but the discourse has made it very difficult for bi people to acknowledge that many historical bisexual icons and bi elders practiced polyamory and were in polyamorous configurations throughout their lives. listen, if u are part of a community in which ur sexual identity is conceptualized as being “too much” and being temporary bc of that “greed”, it’s obvious that said community will politically reclaim and embrace a marker of the very thing that’s used against them. let’s not be afraid to talk about that. don’t buy into respectability politics to distill and purify our history.
Ontario PC leadership candidate Doug Ford recently accepted endorsements from a pair of controversial pastors with a history of preaching hate.
Charles McVety and Paul Melnichuk, two pastors with a well-documented track record promoting homophobia and anti-Semitism, are singing Ford’s praises as he works to lock-down the support of Ontario’s social conservative fringe.
McVety, president of the Canada Christian College and the far-right Institute for Canadian Values, called on his followers to buy PC memberships and cast votes for Ford – someone he describes as a “faithful man.”
“The leadership will be won by just a few thousand votes,” McVety told his Facebook followers this week. “You and your friends can make a difference as we see our land healed.”
listen… i’m a lesbian and i know full well what oppression based on love is like… but i wish white gay folks wouldn’t act like sexuality is the only reason anyone’s ever felt that
there are people in my family who’ve been disowned because they married someone of a different colour to them… i’m mixed race and the very concept of my existence would’ve been illegal in the us when my parents were born. the supreme court only ruled against discrimination of mixed-race marriages in 1967! that’s barely 50 years ago. homophobia is an awful thing to experience and i know that from first hand experience but i’m begging you to remember that gay people aren’t the only ones being killed for who they love. please remember the struggles faced by Black and brown people when you talk about oppression. please have some solidarity with your nonwhite friends (especially your nonwhite gay friends!) when you talk about dismantling the systems that keep us alone and isolated. please remember the horrible history that is anti-miscegenation laws when you talk about equal marriage rights, because they aren’t just for white gay people.
Straight women hurt bi women through homophobia, men hurt bi women through homophobia and misogyny, acting like bi women form a coherent and inherently benevolent allegiance with straight women by virtue of a nebulous idea of “relationship to men” is absolutely absurd and serves to do little other than continue to minimize the complexities in our experiences with both homophobia (from men and women) and misogyny
The idea that bi people can somehow “blend in” with straight people is absurd. We are not straight, and straight people will simply never be able to understand us, which means they’ll never be truly free of bi/homophobia towards us. The only way we can align ourselves with straight people is by closeting ourselves and habitully denying who we are, and that doesn’t make the homophobia go away. It simply masks our pain.
I can’t turn off being bi. I can’t turn off the hurt and fear I feel when the straight women I work with call people f*ggots, letting me and everyone else know that anyone who isn’t hetero isn’t welcome around them. I can’t be the Good Christian Heterosexual Woman my abusive straight mother wanted me to be. When I dated straight men after I was out, I had to deal with them being extra possessive of me because I was the double threat of both a woman and a woman who wasn’t exclusively attracted to men.
We can pretend, we can “appear straight” to outsiders by dating people of a different gender presentation, but that doesn’t change the fact that who we are is still in a marginalized class that bigots can still use to oppress us.
Trigger warnings for: death, murder, child death, violence, antiblack racism, antiblack slurs, homophobic slurs, transphobic slurs, mention of attempted rape, and mention of death threats.
Pay particular attention to how the Democratic politicians mentioned in the piece refuse to allow the DNA testing that could exonerate a most likely innocent man.
On this day in 1726, three men were hanged by the neck until they were dead on the infamous gallows of Tyburn.
Their names were Thomas Wright, Gabriel Lawrence & William Griffin. They have been lost to history, joining the ranks of thousands upon thousands of men, women and children who were sentenced to death in the long 18th century. No portraits of these men survive, only recorded court testimonies and savage witness condemnation. But Wright, Lawrence and Griffin represent more than simply the fall out of a harsh criminal justice system. They had been caught up in the famous Sodomy Trials of the 1720s, specifically an investigation into the mollyhouse (gay brothel) of Mother Margaret Clap, on Field Lane, Holborn, London. This area of London was famous for its gay community, often dubbed Sodomite’s Walk. When the Reformation societies, deeply, deeply Protestant in creed, decided to take on the perceived vice of London (not just gay communities, but poor prostitutes too), it was here that they aimed their bow. They used spies, men who entered suspected gay men’s confidence and followed them to their favoured haunts and snap them up in the act. It was a vicious, dishonest trap but it managed to catch Mother Clap, the male sex workers she presided over, and the customers she served, in its claws.
Wright, Lawrence and Griffin were unfortunately sold out by hidden informants, spies, their bribed and manipulated lovers (often promised to be saved from death themselves if they spoke out against their male lovers and dubbed them as rapists) or a combination of all three. Not even the three men’s character witnesses, who all stated that the men were honest, kind and upstanding could save them. Wright, Lawrence and Griffin were the only men who ended up being executed, the rest who were found guilty, either of sodomy or some other sexual misdemeanour, were sentenced to time in the pillories where the public were given the freedom to pelt them with rotten fruit, animal corpses etc. (bearable but disgusting), though these three men were certainly not the first or last men to be executed simply for their lifestyle. Unlike other public hangings which were often treated as forms of entertainment and days out in these days, the mood was sombre. People were not keen to celebrate.
Their hanging marked a change in the opinions of the general public. Whilst it didn’t totally change their views on homosexuality to those of tolerance, the general public felt particularly attacked by Reformation societies, their nosey and interfering practices, and the utter insanity of execution as a punishment for one’s private lifestyle. Whilst sodomy was nowhere near being decriminalised, independently minded Londoners, who in the 18th century were marked out by their strong sense of British liberty, began to believe wholeheartedly in bodily autonomy. Put plainly: people should be allowed to do what they wanted with their bodies. This was no longer the age of religious superstition and fear, it was an age of science and progress, no matter what the Reformation societies did or said. Moreover, the hypocrisy of heterosexual sodomy not ever being punished was indisputable.
This revelation was too late for Wright, Lawrence and Griffin, but their deaths were not in vain. The brutality they endured posed a new, lasting idea to the British public. In fact, another man caught up in the Mother Clap Sodomy trials (he escaped execution for a spell in the pillories) would state at his own trial, when asked to defend his actions, that he was and would continue to do what he wanted with his own body and life and for that, there could and should be no punishment.
Sources:
• The Secret History of Georgian London // Dan Cruickshank
• Georgian London: Into the Streets // Lucy Inglis
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