i know i’m attracted to men and women for different reasons

tomcats-and-tophats:

theorclair:

addignisherlock:

tomcats-and-tophats:

You can be bisexual and prefer women.

You can be

bisexual

and prefer men.

You can be

bisexual

and agender, genderfluid, and any other non-binary identity.

You can be

bisexual

and prefer partners with nb identities like yours.

You can be bisexual and unsure of what your gender is.

You can be

bisexual

and feel attraction to some genders like this and others like that.

You can be

bisexual

and feel no difference at all.

You can be

bisexual

and have no preference at all.

You can be

bisexual

and polyamorous, or bi and monogomous.

You can be

bisexual

and love sex, or want nothing to do with sex.

You can be bisexual and single. You can have never dated anyone.

You can be bisexual and young, or bisexual and old.

You can realize you’re bisexual at any age, with any partner.

Bisexual can look like anyone, bisexuality can be anyone’s life. You’re allowed to be bi, you’re allowed to be yourself.

Question: what’s the difference between pansexuality and bisexuality then? Asking because I want to understand 🙂 I thought if the attraction includes nb identities, it would fall under the category of pan? If someone can be equally attracted to cis men and cis women and also trans man and trans women, is that bi or pan?

@addignisherlock, from what I understand, bi is “two or more” and pan is “all.” (Trans people would be included as the gender they transistioned to, not a different category.)

@addignisherlock There is no meaningful distinction between “two or more” and “all” just as there is no meaningful distinction between bisexuality and pansexuality. Bisexual people have always been, and been with, trans and nonbinary people, and the notion that we haven’t is based in biphobic, transphobic stereotypes that ignore our history and pathologizes our love and attraction. As a bi nonbinary woman I absolutely resent this recently-popularized idea that my sexuality somehow belongs to cis people.

And theorclair is right, treating trans men and trans women as different genders entirely from cis men and cis women is just straight up transphobia, regardless of how you identify. That’s part of the problem too – identifying as pan doesn’t prevent someone from perpetuating transphobia, nor does it really properly address issues of transphobia at all.

People are free to identify as pan all they want, but it should never be from a place of biphobia – and biphobia is believing that any of my statements in the OP are untrue.