I think what i hate the most about how current gay rights activism is based off of how gay people just need to accept themselves, but often thats not the problem. I’ve known for a long time that I was gay, since like elementary. The problem was for me and still is, how straight people have always socially marginalized me for being gay since I knew what gay was. Ive been abused, traumatized, assaulted, mocked, bullied, and isolated for being gay my entire life. The problem never was I simply hate myself for being gay, the problem is everyone ELSE has a problem with it. Every issue I have being gay comes not from myself, but rather the world around me that makes me feel certain ways. That narrative of “accepting yourself” is such bullshit because while self acceptance is vital for everyone, it places the burden of gay people’s lives on themselves and not the world around them for being violently homophobic to them. And unless that changes, no amount of self acceptance can save you from the violence you will face for the rest of your life for being gay.
TERFS DO NOT INTERACT THIS POST WAS MADE BY AN EVIL TRA
[image set of flowers with text. text reads “being sapphic is not about being attracted to ‘vagina’” / “being sapphic is about loving and being attracted to women” / “being a feminist is not about picking and choosing ‘valid’ women” / “it’s about supporting, advocating, and giving a voice to all women” / “trans-exclusionary radical feminism is an inherently transphobic movement”
The first thing to keep in mind is that there are more of “us” than there are of “them.” Relatively few people in the world are allowed to call themselves real, manly cisgender men. So it’s time for the rest of us to find and hold some common ground. Women have got a great deal in common with gays, lesbians, bisexuals, and transgender people who’ve got a lot in common with queer people, who’ve got a lot in common with children and older youth. Sissy men and young boys have a lot in common with men of color. People with disabilities — physical and mental alike — have traditionally been denied membership in any gender in the America that once was great. Jews, Muslims, Buddhists, Wiccans and atheists stand alongside the ranks of the intellectuals, the effete, and town fools. In short, we are a whole lot of people, and all we have to do to stop the gender bullies from getting away with it—the only thing we have to do is stop thinking that our own unique gender-based suffering is worse than anyone else’s.
for the last……..i don’t know, 5 or so years, my m.o. regarding internet bisexual disourse has largely been to ignore it and encourage other bi people to do the same. it made sense to me because as far as i could see it was an issue that exclusively existed on this site. which isn’t to say i didn’t think it was harmful – i hated myself for years as a direct result of the things other lgbt people said about bisexual women on here – but i thought the harm could largely be avoided by blocking the few loudmouths who were trying to start shit and hanging with people who weren’t evil.
i no longer feel that way.
i no longer feel that way because, as of yesterday, you absolute fucking buffoons have ran your mouth so far that your fire new radical materialist feminist discourse so hot even fellow lgbts cant handle????????? has reached lena fucking dunham
do you want to know WHY your radical materialist feminist discourse reached lena dunham?????
because a bisexual journalist made this simple ass tweet
and in response, some straight white woman decided to tweet this
which would have just stayed straight nonsense if an extremely smart and clever white lesbian writer friend of hers hadn’t decided to join in with a searing hot take based on a radical perspective towards gender that could only have been achieved with her clearly useful phd in queer literature
which would have just stayed mildly irritating if she and the rest of her friends hadn’t proceeded to defend themselves by arguing that bi women deserve rape and abuse actually
which would have only been horrifyingly offensive if all of these people weren’t 1.) people who make money writing about lgbt shit that 2.) were tweeting from their work accounts where 3.) they have enough reach to be followed by actually influential people such as comrade lena dunham
so seeing as the “close your eyes and maybe itll go away” method has CLEARLY failed, i am genuinely pleased to announce my new tactic. its called
Can I also just draw out here that their argument is LITERALLY that “women who sleep with men deserve what happens to them.”
Like.
This kind of person is, straight (haha) up, the kind of person who is only here for “I want mine”. If they’d been born a straight guy they’d be the worst kind of bros.
This is a thing that happens: I know PLENTY of straight white women whose grasp of feminism is limited strictly to “this affects me, so it’s important”. And of every other stripe of identity.
But never mistake it for anything than what it is.
there is SO MUCH lgbt history information to be had, so many books, so many archives, a surprising amount of which you can explore online for free, if you just look for it! don’t let people tell you this history is lost to the ages!
#and ask yourself who benefits when they tell you that!!
My country is deeply controlled and manipulated right now. There is anti-lgbt propaganda everywhere you look, from giant banners in the streets, flyers, to adds on the internet and most tv channels.
I’m from Romania. One of the poorest countries in Europe. It is deeply christian, on the orthodox side, and the church now has control over the political and social situation. Our “politicians” are so corrupt they are making laws to make corruption legal, looking out for their friends who already got into delux prisons and hoping they won’t get there as well.
A few years ago, the church created this “union”, and they named themselves “Coaliția pentru familie”. In english it means “The Coalition for the Family”. They have created a series of rules, and these include
1. Writing in the Constitution that marriage can only be between a man and a woman (because i suppose it wasn’t clear enough in their opinion), and making it so it can never be changed.
2. Making abortion illegal. No matter whether it was from rape, incest, or if it meant the death of the mother or/and the child.
3. Making any contraceptive means illegal.
4. Stop women from going to work, making them dependable on their male counterparts/family members. And no, i’m not exaggerating that is actually what they wrote
5. Honestly there are so many more these are just at the top of my head
And, in 2016, the Coalition got approx 3 million votes.
Now, i’m not saying that they faked the votes. They (probably) didn’t. However, i know that most people probably didn’t even know what they were signing. They went in churches and made people vote. My grandmother doesn’t know how to read or write; all she knows is how to make a signature. She goes to church and i wouldn’t be surprised if they made her and people like her vote for things they really don’t understand.
Moving back to 2018. The political situation in Romania is….
Horrible.
On the 10th of August, there was a protest the diaspora organised. They came from countries all around the world back in romania to protest against the horridly corrupt government. The gov got the gendarmerie involved, and so over 450 people got into hospitals, some of them even in critical condition. And nobody is answering, moving the blame from themselves to the protesters themselves. And, amongst all this misery and conflict, in order to distract the people, they decided to have a refferendum. Against gay marriage.
The refferendum is asking whether they should change the constitution in the way the Coalition wants to or not. It costs over 45 million euros, and it’s going to be in 2 different days, 6 and 7 of october. It is very illegal. They complain that it’s not clear enough, but if that were the case it would mean that
a. Gay marriage is already legal, therefore they are depleting people from human rights
b. It’s not legal, making this whole thing absolutely useless.
This is only the beginning. There is no way we can win; the population is still deeply homophobic, racist, xenophobic, sexist, etc etc whatever you can think of, it is. But if this thing passes, then the other “laws” will have a chance too. And so, we’ll be moved back in the eighteenth century.
There is propaganda everywhere, especially in the big cities. These are just a small portion of them:
This internet add hurts a lot. 1918 is a very important year in our history, as it was the year we were able to unify Romania, and it is seen as the wish our people had for hundreds and hundreds of years, and so many people died for that dream. And now, they’re comparing this piece of shit of a refferendum with our nation’s only goal?? On the 100th anniversary????
Newspaper propaganda, where they are comparing gay people to fucking nazis
Tv add
They say “protect our kids” but to be honest with you, i feel anything but protected right now
My hands are shaking as i’m writing this. Our only hope is that people will boicot the ref, but many have been told by their priests that if they don’t go vote, they will publicly be shamed.
Here’s a link to an article that probably explains things better than i did
If anyone has more useful information, like a petition or something, please do not hesitate to add it. The only goal of this post is to bring acknowledgment to people who aren’t from romania, as it seems that nobody knows what is going on. So please, please share.
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