Tag: misogyny

rush-keating:

To me “anti” is always going to be a euphemism “that one queer person/Jewish person/poc you don’t like” and idk if trying to revise the definition will do much to stop bad actors from employing it that way. =/

The term kind of reminds me of the term “problematic.” It’s just too nebulous to be useful. If someone’s being like “kill yourself you reylo bitch” or whatever then they’re being a misogynistic suicide baiter and why not call them that?

I once was part of a rather innocuous redesign of a marketing campaign poster that attacked nobody IRL and the people who participated in that still got called “antis.”

lord-kitschener:

“genitalia associated with cis women are harshly stigmatized and policed as part of misogyny, which can lead to violence” and “not all women have vaginas and not everyone with a vagina is a woman” and “trans peoples’ bodies are harshly stigmatized and policed as part of transphobia, which can lead to violence” are not mutually exclusive factsx and in fact all of these things are very much interlinked, and should not be used as gotchas! against each other

brownbitchbisexual:

koryfos:

“I asked all of the gay male students in the room to raise their hand if in the past week they touched a woman’s body without her consent. After a moment of hesitation, all of the hands of the gay men in the room went up. I then asked the same gay men to raise their hand if in the past week they offered a woman unsolicited advice about how to “improve” her body or her fashion. Once again, after a moment of hesitation, all of the hands in the room went up. These questions came after a brief exploration of gay men’s relationship to American fashion and women’s bodies. That dialogue included recognizing that gay men in the United States are often hailed as the experts of women’s fashion and by proxy women’s bodies. In addition to this there is a dominant logic that suggests that because gay men have no conscious desire to be sexually intimate with women, our uninvited touching and groping (physical assault) is benign.“”

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http://goodmenproject.com/ethics-values/gay-mens-sexism-and-womens-bodies/#E1KDEIlqLsAtOPMD.99

http://ontd-political.livejournal.com/10176427.html#cutid1

(via alexandrashostak)

These attitudes have led many gay men to feel curiously comfortable critiquing and touching women’s bodies at whim.  What’s unique about this is not the male sense of ownership to women’s bodies—that is somewhat common.  What’s curious is the minimization of these acts by gay men and many women because the male perpetuating the act is or is perceived to be gay.

An example: I was at a gay club in Atlanta with a good friend of mine who is a heterosexual black woman. While dancing in the club, a white gay male reached out and grabbed both her breasts aggressively. Shocked, she pushed him away immediately. When we both confronted him he told us:  “It’s no big deal, I’m gay, I don’t want her– I was just having fun.” We expressed our frustrations to him and demanded he apologize, but he simply refused. He clearly felt entitled to touch her body and could not even acknowledge the fact that he had assaulted her.

I have experienced this attitude as being very common amongst gay men. It should also be noted that in this case, she was a black woman and he a white gay male, which makes this an eyebrow-raising dynamic as it invokes the psychological history of white men’s entitlement to black women’s bodies. However it has been my experience that this dynamic of assault with gay men and women also persists within racial groups.

tomcats-and-tophats:

takemeapartbykelela:

frogmp3:

seinfeldbassline:

not to be over dramatic but this is literally The Worst Thing I’ve Ever Seen In My Life

this is like “aesthetic attraction is valid” tumblr started reading some judith butler but fell asleep within the first few paragraphs and then picked up their phone and started typing in their sleep

“butch women shouldn’t be in women spaces” let’s play another round of “Who Said It, A Conservative Homophobe/Politician, Or An Amateur Queer Theorist?”

We’re just straight-up saying that feminine cis men are more women than women now. No unfortunate-but-accidental implications or clumsy-but-well-meaning handling of trans issues. Just “these actual men who love being dudes deserve women’s spaces more than you do because you look and act like women wrong”.

What’ll it take to prove to them that blatant misogyny isn’t a great foundation for women’s spaces?

lkeke35:

profeminist:

[Reactions to a tweet of A Wrinkle In Time poster focused on the girl hero, with a a comment “This is a GREAT poster – but don’t they want little boys to see this too?”]

“If we keep teaching boys they have to be centered they will never learn to listen to anyone else’s stories.” – 

Mikki Kendall

“This tweet is why so many men had brain meltdowns over Last Jedi.

Society has told them if they are not centered then it’s not for their consumption. They can’t/shouldn’t connect with it.

Stop teaching boys this bullshit message.” – @mel_thegreat 

Misogyny isn’t just calling women nasty names, assaulting them, or lack of equality. It’s the devaluation of female experiences ,and stories, as being less important than men’s.

enoughtohold:

how long must a woman go without makeup before she assumes a man’s role and a man’s power in relation to women and, apparently, feminine men? where does the male entitlement live on my body? is it in my leg hair? does it rush under my collar when i button my top button? is it stored in the extra space in the pockets of the jeans i bought on the wrong side of the store? did it creep into my brain when i learned the male art of computer programming, does it get stronger every time i read binary? is it in the air that fills my lungs when i fight back decades of drummed-in habit, take a deep breath, and assert myself without apologizing? is it what supports my feet when i walk in sturdy, flat shoes? where do you find the man in a disobedient woman?