Y’know, this whole shit that TERFs pull by making “receipt blogs” and “masterposts” of everything from the perceived wrongs of or crimes by trans people (especially trans women) remind me, as a Jew, of other particular ideologies that supported the listing and publication of crimes by members of a marginalized group as means to discredit and vie for the mistreatment of said group.
this is being brought back by angry TERFS an honest to goodness year after I wrote this, so reminder that people from every group act wrongly and using this to discredit a particular group/as an argument for their continued oppression is a rather familiar tactic.
Y’all have got to stop reblogging shit from TERFs I swear to God
Okay here’s some fun wordplay for y’all: You’re on the website Tumblr dot com and you see a post about how men are all terrible. Men are often terrible, so there’s gonna be a lot such posts and most of them are good. Except in this case it doesn’t say “men” at all, it says “males.” Now put on your thinking caps and ask why OP would go to that trouble and sound like a space alien instead of saying “men” like a human.
I had my first kiss with a boy long before I transitioned. At 17, I
knew I was a girl, but also that adults in my life weren’t ready for
that. I figured if I couldn’t be a girl, then I might as well fake being
a boy who likes boys.
It
was the winter of 2004. I remember this because that was when my little
heart discovered the Bright Eyes’ song, “Lover I Don’t Have to Love.”
On this perfectly executed, piano-driven, emotional-roller-coaster of a
track, Conor Oberst sings, I want a lover I don’t have to love. I want a boy who’s so drunk he doesn’t talk.
Families are changing. Find out how—every week.
On
the desktop computer in the kitchen of my home in rural Maine, I opened
up AIM and typed out an away message with that lyric and then, without
waking up my parents, I crawled back upstairs to my bedroom to sleep.
TW: Suicide, Transphobia, Physical Assault mentions in the rest of the article
Half of being trans is being hypervigilant against transphobes. Like, I spent 15 minutes scrolling down on a blog that I would be super interested in just to make sure that it wasn’t going to start reblogging stuff from my favorite transmisogynists. Turns out that my hypervigilance was right again.
Things to look for:
References to “vagina envy.” This is what initially got me scrolling. This alone isn’t a sure indicator.
Andrea Dworkin quotes without criticism
Reblogging from troll accounts like confirmed-/-terf
Most cis wlw on Tumblr are, in fact, supportive of trans people. Most cis wlw who mention “hating men” are not using this as an attack on trans women. However, because of my experience with the small, insular, and vitriolic trans-exclusionary feminists on Tumblr, I have learned to be hypervigilant and it Really Fucking Sucks and Really Fucking Hurts when I am right.
I am a lesbian. This kind of blog would have been My Shit. But I’ve been taught to distrust the very women I connect with the most. I’ve been taught to feel afraid in my own home.
Being a transgender lesbian is constantly walking on eggshells to not prove them right. And their standards are ever changing so it’s inevitable that you’ll prove them right. Righteous anger will be taken as “male propensity towards violence,” which closely mirrors the way men see outspoken women as “shrill.” If we do anything to fight back outside of debate within their terms, we are immediately casted as “violent men.” They will not be satisfied until we shut up, lie down, and die.
Cis wlw can and should reblog this. Help me remember my allies.
in light of this #droptheB hash tag that reactionary psyops have begun, i just want to remind everyone that bi/trans solidarity has always existed. we have always fought for each other’s visibility and safety and rights and we have always formed community with each other. bi history and trans history aren’t mutually exclusive threads – they’re intertwined. you go back through various lgbt archives, such as the archive of the san francisco bay area bisexual network’s magazine, and you’ll see calls for bi/trans solidarity from the 80′s and 90′s. monica helms, the trans woman who created the trans pride flag, was inspired to do so after talking to michael page, the bi man who created the bisexual pride flag. we’ve always been there for each other and that won’t change just because reactionaries hate us and want to divide and conquer.
and a special shout out to: trans and nb bisexuals, who are part of both communities. i’m sorry that this is happening, but i’m especially sorry that reactionaries are trying to rip you apart between your communities.
Radfems hate women who aren’t feminine enough, sure they claim to support the breaking of gender roles and gender non-conforming women but only a very, very specific kind.
They’d tell women they shouldn’t shave, that being proud of your body hair is empowering etc, etc, but the moment a very hairy woman doesn’t shave or has a beard and is proud? Oh well, then that means she’s a NASTY MAN with a BIG FAT COCK, and an EVIL TRAN and STINKS!
They operate on a very specific limited world-view that they claim to be against, they hate anyone who breaks gender roles and assume they are trans. Obviously, this comes from their transmisogynist views but that doesn’t change the fact that they are also raging misogynists.
They hate trans women so much they’ll attack cis women that don’t fall into their strict category of what’s an acceptable behaviour for a woman. They just copy-pasted the world-view of any extremely sexist cishet white right-wing conservative man, slapped a new label on it and called it progressive.
Never forget that a TERF’s best friend is a conservative straight white man. Both of them just LOVE hating, harassing and abusing women.
Khaled’s misogyny aside for a second but who doesn’t like eating pussy jfc
My husband said Russian men think it’s gay
Yknow what
eating pussy…is gay….
Fellas is it gay to have sex with a woman?
In the normies’ dialect, “gay” doesn’t quite mean “homosexual” – it’s more along the lines of “homosexual and/or effeminate”. Thus, for example, boy bands like One Direction are often seen as “gay” regardless of the members’ sexual orientation and despite them having a huge number of female fans: one of their major selling factors is attractiveness, and selling things with one’s appearance is a “woman’s job”, which makes a man doing it seen as effeminate or “gay”. Likewise, the only “masculine” way to have sex is to be penetrating a woman with one’s penis. Even penetrative fingering (not to mention non-pentrative clitoral stimulation) is looked down upon because it doesn’t involve a penis, but it would probably pass as an acceptable form of “foreplay” (well, other than the part where a lot of these men are also massively disgusted by vulvae, and only want to touch them with their penises) – the only “real” kind of sex is vaginal or anal penetration. Cunnilingus violates this standard of masculinity in several ways: it doesn’t involve a penis; it involves putting one’s mouth on another person’s genitals, which, fellatio being the central example of oral sex for these people, is also seen as a “woman’s job”; it involves applying effort and possibly tolerating mild physical discomfort for the sake of the partner’s pleasure, which is also a “woman’s job”. Thus, giving cunnilingus is seen as effeminate, and thus “gay”.
Y’all need to keep in mind that garden variety conservative dudebros don’t run on the same ontology as tumblr does. You may see gender identity, gender presentation, gender roles, and sexual orientation as entirely separate things, but for them these are all intertwined. Homophobia, transphobia, and sexism aren’t separate axes of prejudice that often happen to coincide (I mean, they can be; I’m talking about the specific world view that also produces things like “cunnilingus is gay”); they’re stemming from a very specific understanding what men and women are and what they should do. Redrawing categories such that gender and sexuality are separate things is a rather novel approach; even queer communities started really treating them as separate only in late 20th century, and the mainstream is far from being there – especially in less progressive countries. Quick reminder: Stonewall riots technically started over gender presentation rather than sexual orientation – it’s hard to apply sodomy laws when you don’t actually catch people having sex, but very easy to apply the laws that say that men must dress like men and women must dress like women, which what the police was checking: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stonewall_riots#Police_raid. But at the time, the boundaries between gay identity, drag queen identity, and transgender identity were very blurred.
Which is also why the compartmentalization of activism is really really bad, as is “don’t you dare to say that you’re experiencing X-phobia if you’re not X”. We can’t fight a unified force by pretending that entirely different forces are striking entirely different people. “Giving cunnilingus is gay, and therefore I won’t do it and will bully everyone who does” has the undertones of homophobia (”gays are bad, bully them”), misogyny (”giving oral sex is dishonorable, and therefore only women can do that because they’re second class citizens who have no honor to begin with”), transphobia and gender policing (”the shape of genitals you’re born with determines what you can and cannot do in life; incidentally, having been born with a penis means that you can’t give oral sex”). But even considering all these categories separately doesn’t really get us to the core of the issue that “gay” and “effeminate” are inseparable categories for these people.
Also this misogynist idea isn’t endemic to Russia, I’ve seen similar shitty attitudes in plenty of guys from the USA, and the notes on this post are full if people pointing out that this attitude is common in other countries, toi
terfs: drawin nasty caricatures of trans women with broad shoulders and face stubble and body hair to show how “masculine” they really are and therefore not “real women”
my cis female vagaina’d-havin never-taken-testosterone-in-my-life ass:
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