my mom’s work held a seminar about lgbt issues and there was a part where they talked about the high rates of suicide, drug use, and abuse that bi people face and my mom told me that everyone there was so shocked that the rates were higher than gay men and lesbians. including the gay man who was sitting next to my mom who said he had no idea and now he felt guilty for how he talked to and thought about bi people in the past. everyone there (including my mother, by her own admission) thought that things would be easier for bisexuals because we can “fit in with either group.” that really shows you how much people ignore the specific issues that bisexuals have to go through and how the fact that people think we have “straight-passing privilege” just makes people turn their backs on us.
According to the Bisexual Resource Center (BRC), approximately 40 percent of bisexual people have considered or attempted suicide, compared to just over a quarter of gay men and lesbians.
HRC’s “Health Disparities Among Bisexual People” found that “when compared to heterosexual adults, bisexual adults reported double the rate of depression and higher rates of binge drinking.”
Those numbers are even higher for the bisexual people who are also transgender, people of color and/or people with disabilities.
Just because gay marriage is legal in the US doesnt mean that we are safe at Pride. Also, any social justice activism that discounts homophobia and its impact on gay people is bullshit.
something that bisexuals are afraid to discuss or admit to about bi history is the presence of polyamory within bi spaces and the connection b/w polyamory and bisexuality. people want to avoid conforming to bi stereotypes bc they fear homophobic backlash and that’s very fair. plus polyamory is not inherently “queer”. but the discourse has made it very difficult for bi people to acknowledge that many historical bisexual icons and bi elders practiced polyamory and were in polyamorous configurations throughout their lives. listen, if u are part of a community in which ur sexual identity is conceptualized as being “too much” and being temporary bc of that “greed”, it’s obvious that said community will politically reclaim and embrace a marker of the very thing that’s used against them. let’s not be afraid to talk about that. don’t buy into respectability politics to distill and purify our history.Â
if your first response to “there’s nothing wrong with gay people kissing in front of kids” is “well i think nobody of ANY orientation should kiss in front of kids!!” then ur missing the point entirely
the fact of the matter is that kids have seen straight people kiss their entire lives regardless of if you agree with it or not, and gay people are often forbidden to express their sexuality around kids and abused and vilified for doing so. gay people kissing or otherwise showing affection around kids will do nothing to hurt them, and will only normalize the existence of gay people for those kids which will benefit everyone in the long run. if you don’t support gay people having the freedom to exist visibly everywhere then you don’t support gay people!
how come ace exclusionists can make entire blogs dedicated to posting weird shit in the ace positivity tag and mostly get ignored but one ace person says something in poor taste and every ace person on this website suddenly has to be able to prove theyre not “one of the bad ones” to be taken seriously
like so far i have seen one (1) post by a 15 year old about how ppl kissing at pride makes them uncomfortable, and dozens of condescending posts telling ace people not to come to pride events because there will be gay people there kissing
also: fake troll ace blogs purposefully saying bigoted/weird/embarrassing stuff and everyone falling for it (either out of willful ignorance or not)
It’s exhausting, especially as someone who tries to avoid the discourse and is in the main acronym regardless of asexuality. I shouldn’t have to see the hate. The many of us who mind our business, who are respectful of the gay and trans communities and may be a part of them ourselves, shouldn’t have to put up with obsessed freaks making a hobby out of shoehorning hate onto our dashboards under the guise of positivity and outside observers accepting really obvious aphobe sock puppet accounts at face value.
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